Tap on the menu [☰] in the top left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Your username will appear on this page.

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Your username (and profile number) appear at the top.

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account/Account Information

Then Username

Type in your new username

Tap Save.

Click on Profile

Then on Edit (beside your nickname)

Update your nickname

Select Save.

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Your profile number appears at the bottom of the screen.

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Your profile number (and username) appear at the top.

Tap on Profile

Then select Edit on the sections you want to change

Make your changes

Tap Done.

Click on Profile

Then select Edit on the sections which you want to change

Make your changes

Click Save.

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top left corner

Then on Settings

Then Profile Options

Enable or disable Temporarily hide profile.

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Security & Privacy

Enable/disable Hide profile

Be honest and authentic: Your About Me section should be an accurate representation of who you are and what you’re after, so be honest about your intentions. Nothing can sink a conversation faster than realizing the person you’re talking to is full of it.
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​Tip: Instead of writing what you think members want to hear, double down on the truth. If you’re looking for a casual, sex-only arrangement, just say so and make your offer as enticing as possible.

Highlight your best qualities: Use your About Me section to showcase your best qualities and highlight what makes you unique and worth connecting with.
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​Tip: Try to keep things contextually relevant, and focus on the attributes that will entice someone to get to know you better. Are you the life of the party? A great lover? Well-groomed? These are the kinds of qualities that potential matches would love to hear about you.
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Be specific: When describing yourself, be specific about what you’re looking for on Ashley Madison and what your expectations are. This will help attract like-minded members and increase your chances of making connections.
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Be funny: A little bit of humor can go a long way in making your profile stand out, and showing off your personality. It can also help members who might be overly cautious or shy feel more comfortable messaging you.
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​Tip: Remember, what people find funny is subjective. Until you have a handle on who you’re talking to and the type of humor they respond to, try to keep any funny anecdotes or phrases in your profile light and respectful.
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Be positive: Nobody likes a Debbie Downer, and your About Me isn’t the place to complain – it’s supposed to attract people and encourage them to connect with you! Avoid negative language or dredging up past relationships, and focus on the positive aspects of your life and what you're looking for in an encounter.
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​Tip: Avoid using negative phrases that raise the red flags like "Don't bother messaging me if…,” "I have a low tolerance for nonsense," or "Impress me.” Remember: you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.
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Keep it short and direct: Members aren’t here to read a novel. Keep your About Me concise and to the point, highlighting the most compelling information about yourself.
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​Tip: When trying to capture someone’s attention in just a few sentences, be as concise as possible. Try stringing together scannable descriptors that let your personality shine through, like “Foodie. Dog lover. Sports fan,” etc.
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Proofread: Remember, your dating profile is a reflection of yourself and what you're looking for on Ashley Madison. Take the time to craft a great one, and you'll increase your chances of making connections.

​* The Ashley Madison Member Survey was conducted in March and April of 2023, with the results reflecting the opinions of a small sample of 3,277 Ashley Madison members.

Personalize: Take the time to read someone’s profile and reference something that stood out to you. This will show you’re interested – don’t just send a generic message (nothing can kill a conversation faster than “hey”). When you personalize your message, it’s more likely to grab attention and encourage someone to chat with you.
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​Try something like: Hi [Username]. I came across your profile and noticed that we both enjoy hiking. Have you been on any great hikes lately? I’m always on the hunt for new trails to explore. Hope to hear back from you soon."
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Be respectful: Being polite and respectful right out of the gate is essential to keeping the conversation going. Avoid using inappropriate language or innuendo until you have a read on who you’re talking to and what they like.
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Keep it brief: Don't write a long essay in your first message. Keep it short and sweet, and focus on making a good first impression.
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​Try something like: Hi [Username]. Your great sense of humor really came through in your profile and made me laugh. Would you be interested in chatting a bit, and hopefully I can return the favor?
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Ask questions: Ask Members a question about something they mentioned in their profile, like their profession, hobbies, or interests. This shows that you’re interested in getting to know them better.
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​Try something like: Hi [Username]. I’m fascinated by your work in architecture – do you have any interesting projects you’re working on right now? I’d love to hear more about it over coffee sometime. Cheers!
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Avoid compliments about appearance (if you can): While we all usually love to be complimented, commenting on someone's appearance in a first message can come across as shallow or insincere. Instead, focus on something they said in their profile that impressed you and compliment that.
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​Try something like: Hi [Username], your photo with your dog is really cute! I have a dog too, and love going to the dog park with him. Would you be interested in meeting up for a pup playdate?
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Use proper grammar and spelling: A message riddled with typos or incorrect punctuation can prevent someone from responding to you. Make sure your message is free of grammatical and spelling errors to show that you’re taking the time to communicate clearly and effectively.
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​Tip: Technology is your friend. If spelling and grammar aren’t your strong suit, leverage apps and programs like Grammarly or Google docs to ensure the messages you’re sending are well-written and polished. Sending an illegible or unpolished message can be a huge turn-off for members.
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Be yourself: Don't try to be someone you're not in your message. Be authentic and let your personality shine through. Nothing can sink a conversation faster than realizing who you’re talking to is full of it.

Be original: Your Greeting should differentiate you from other members, so avoid using clichéd, overused, or boring phrases. Try to write something unique that showcases your personality.
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​Try to avoid generic or non-descriptive Greetings like:

Keep it short and sweet: Your Greeting should be concise and to the point, and ideally no longer than one or two sentences. Avoid using long sentences or paragraphs because they can be overwhelming and difficult to read. Try stringing together scannable descriptors that let your personality shine through, and help you to look self-assured and direct.
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​Try something like:

Highlight your interests and personality: Your headline should give people an idea of who you are and what interests you. Highlight your hobbies, passions, or unique personality traits to attract like-minded members. Remember: point form is okay and lets you convey a lot of information quickly.
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​Try something like:

Be positive: Don’t use negative or self-deprecating language in your Greeting. Instead, focus on positive aspects of yourself and/or what you're looking for in a connection. Remember: low self-esteem isn’t modesty, it’s a turn-off.
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​Avoid Greetings that could be perceived as red flags, like:

Use (appropriate) humor: A well-placed joke or clever pun can do wonders to catch someone's attention and encourage them to learn more about you. Just make sure that what you write is appropriate, respectful, and doesn't offend anyone.
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Lead with a question: Remember, your Greeting is a chance to showcase your personality and convince members to connect with you, so take the time to brainstorm a Greeting that members will find irresistible.

Click on Messages

You will see your Messages and Sent folders on the left.

Tap on Messages

Tap on the Folder symbol in the top-right corner

You will see both folders: Messages and Sent.

Go to your Messages

Tap the Paperclip/Key symbol

Select Attach my Private Key.

Go to your Messages

Click on the Key symbol

Select Send Private Key.

Open the conversation you want to delete

Click the three dots (or Options depending on the device you’re using)

Selecting Delete Conversation.

Tap on Profile

Tap on the camera symbol

Take a new photo, or upload from your library

Select your photo

Tap Next

Disguise your photo if desired

Tap Next

Then Use this photo

Click on Profile;

Scroll down to Photo Gallery

Click Add

Choose to take a new photo, or upload from your library

Select the photo

Disguise your photo if desired

Click Save

Go to Profile

Scroll down to Photo Gallery

Select the photo you want to edit

Click on the three dots [⋯] in the top-right corner

Select Edit photo

Disguise your photo

Tap the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Manage photos

Select the photo to delete

Tap on the three dots [⋯]

Select Delete

Click on Profile

Scroll down to Photo Gallery

Click Edit

Select the photo to delete

Click Delete photo

Then Save

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top left corner

Then on Settings

Then Profile Options

Enable or disable Rated Photos.

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Enable or Disable View Explicit Photos

Click on the menu in the top-left corner

Then on Contact Options

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Notifications

Select which notifications you’d like to receive

On your iOS device, open the Settings app

Scroll down and tap Notifications

Select the Ashley Madison app

Toggle on Allow Notifications (Toggle will turn green)

Optional: Customize how you would like to receive notifications. Options include:

On your iOS device, open the Settings app

Scroll down and tap Notifications

Select the Ashley Madison app

Toggle off Allow Notifications (Toggle will turn gray)

On your iOS device, open the Settings app

Scroll down and tap Notifications

Toggle on Scheduled Summary (Toggle will turn green);

iOS will guide you through customizing a schedule. You can select specific times when you’d like to receive a summary of notifications; and

Toggle the Ashley Madison app (Toggle will turn green).

On your iOS device, open the Ashley Madison app

Select Stealth from the bottom navigation bar

Choose an icon to disguise the Ashley Madison app icon

Customize your notification message to replace default Ashley Madison notifications

Toggle on Mute push notifications (Toggle will turn green) to prevent push notifications from being delivered to your device

On your Android device, open the Settings app

Scroll down and tap Notifications or Apps & notifications (exact wording may vary depending on your device);

Select the Ashley Madison app to open its notification settings;

Toggle on All Ashley Madison Notifications;

Select which push notifications you want and don’t want to receive (Actions, Chat replies, New chats, and Allow notification)

On your Android device, open the Settings app

Scroll down and tap Notifications or Apps & notifications (exact wording may vary depending on your device)

Select the Ashley Madison app to open its notification settings

Toggle off All Ashley Madison Notifications.

Go to your Messages

Tap the Paperclip/Key symbol

Select Attach my Private Key

Go to your Messages

Click on the Key symbol

Select Send Private Key

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then tap on Settings

Then Keys Sent

Revoke the keys

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Security and Privacy

Then Private Keys Sent

Revoke the keys

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then tap Settings

Then on Profile Options

Enable or disable Automatic Private Key Exchange

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then click on Settings

Then Security & Privacy

Enable or disable Auto Private Key Exchange.

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top left corner

Then on Settings

Then Profile Options

Enable or disable Priority Messages

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Enable or disable Send all messages priority.

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Click on Purchases

Enable or Disable Auto Credit Top-Up

Before accepting a Collect Message, take a moment to review the sender’s profile. If it’s blank or doesn’t catch your interest, think carefully about whether it’s worth spending your Credits.

If you like the profile but want to save Credits, you can ignore or delete the Collect Message and send the Member a message yourself. This way, you’ll only pay for the initial contact, and all future non-Priority Messages between you will be free.

If you accept the message but suspect the Member may be fraudulent, report the profile using the Report option or email us at [email protected]. If we find a violation of our Terms, we’ll investigate and refund your Credits for that contact under our Credit Back Promise.

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top left corner

Then on Settings

Select Quick Reply Settings

Select or deselect Don't Use Quick Reply.

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then click on Settings

Then Notifications

Then Quick Reply Settings

Choose the message you want to send/edit

Enable or disable the toggle

Click Save

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then tap on Settings

Then Profile Options

Enable or disable Send local match messages

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Security & Privacy

Enable or disable Contact Potential Matches for Me

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then tap on Settings

Then Profile Options

Enable or disable Receive new local match messages

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Notifications

Enable or disable New Local Match messages.

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Select Credit History

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Select on Purchases

Your Credit balance appears at the top of the page

Tap on the menu [☰] in the top left corner

Then tap on Settings

Then Credit History

View Transactions

Click on the menu [☰] in the top-left corner

Then on Settings

Then Account

Select Purchases to see your Credit transactions